Today is the big day! Later on this evening I will be heading off to bring home my sweet little puppy. If I’m not too caught up in my snuffing/snuggling/photographing/giggling reverie, I will probably only be capable of discussing how adorable my new “baby” is and overloading you with pictures. So if every last one of my followers and Facebook friends decides to abandon me over the course of the next week or so, I will completely understand. It was lovely to meet and know all of you, and someday I will miss you terribly. That is when I’m able to stop being so pup-absorbed and realize I’m tweeting to an empty feed.
Which just reminded me of an expression my high school friend, Allison used to say whenever someone’s comment/joke fell flat: “Crickets.”
Yeah, it’ll be a lot like that.
Anyway, I’m not entirely sure what happened out there in blogland this week but it seems like y’all got a little fed up. And after reading post after post on these subjects, I’m ready to join you.
Enough with the Word Verification.
We’re all sick of it. I can’t think of anyone who hasn’t posted/tweeted/commented that they hate it. And yet…not everyone seems to have gotten that message. Do you think we’re not talking to you? Because we are. No one is an exception. Turn it off. Shut it down. Make it stop. You do not get that much spam, I promise.
If you’re not sure how to turn it off, or even why you should, Style-Delights covered that subject on Sunday.
Now, because I’m impatient and mean I often just plain refuse to comment on blogs that have word verification in place.
But if you’re nicer than me and still comment on blogs that have word verification, why not pretend you’re saying a magic spell as you suffer through it like Mrs. Monologues does?
Stop Being Sorry.
I know in the past I’ve been guilty of this, but Katy Widrick brought it up again this week and I remembered how much it bothers me. If you haven’t blogged in a while – don’t say you’re sorry for not blogging. Stuff happens, we get it. And as much as you may think you “owe” us posts/explanations/apologies – you don’t. You really don’t owe us anything.
But DO Remember Your Followers are Real People.
Don’t invite people to make an emotional investment into your life and then just drop them. Do not forget that your readers are still living, breathing, caring people who have a genuine interest in your well being. You are not required to keep blogging for the rest of your life, or blog through a tough time – or even a really happy time. Just give us a heads up that you’re taking some time off so we don’t think you were abducted. We’ll be sad and miss you, but we’ll get over it.
So don’t jerk us around either.
If you say you’re leaving your blog, leave it. Don’t come back two days/weeks/months later and say “JK, y’all!”
Just be yourself.
It’s not like it’s hard. I know it’s tempting to emulate successful bloggers because – after all – it works well for them! But your readers can see through your attempts to imitate someone else and we don’t like to read carbon copies of the same blog posts over and over again. Do your own thing, let your voice (and light) shine through, and just be you. That’s when you’ll really connect with your followers. Stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks and just be real. It takes way less energy than putting on character of who you think you need to be.
At the end of the day I absolutely 100% believe you should blog because you want to and blog because you love it. When it comes to the way you blog and what you say and how you say it – channel your inner honey badger. It’s your blog and you’ll do what you want. You really don’t owe anyone anything. But that also means you don’t get to complain about how other people interact or don’t interact with you. If you want to be part of a community or join a conversation you may have to compromise a little bit.
But not too much. Sometimes you have to break “the rules” to get what you want and get the job done.
But don’t just take my word for it.
Katie at Priceless Adventure posted her blogging pet peeves earlier this week – and I’m gonna venture to guess that every last one of you has your own list of blogger “deal breakers”. I’m all about sharing our thoughts and feelings constructively. No need to get vicious and call anyone out – but you do have to ask for what you want (I have another old post about that too – this one also has some interesting discussion on it!).
So what’s next? Brook has some twitter dos and don’ts for you.
Do you have any blog-related pet peeves? Do tell!
P.S. I really will try to keep the puppy talk to a reasonable minimum. Cross my heart.