Stuff From All Over – Angry Blogger Edition

April 13, 2012

Today is the big day! Later on this evening I will be heading off to bring home my sweet little puppy. If I’m not too caught up in my snuffing/snuggling/photographing/giggling reverie, I will probably only be capable of discussing how adorable my new “baby” is and overloading you with pictures. So if every last one of my followers and Facebook friends decides to abandon me over the course of the next week or so, I will completely understand. It was lovely to meet and know all of you, and someday I will miss you terribly. That is when I’m able to stop being so pup-absorbed and realize I’m tweeting to an empty feed.

Which just reminded me of an expression my high school friend, Allison used to say whenever someone’s comment/joke fell flat: “Crickets.” 

Yeah, it’ll be a lot like that.

Latte as a little pup. He still lets me hold him that way!

Anyway, I’m not entirely sure what happened out there in blogland this week but it seems like y’all got a little fed up. And after reading post after post on these subjects, I’m ready to join you.

Enough with the Word Verification. 

We’re all sick of it. I can’t think of anyone who hasn’t posted/tweeted/commented that they hate it. And yet…not everyone seems to have gotten that message. Do you think we’re not talking to you? Because we are. No one is an exception. Turn it off. Shut it down. Make it stop. You do not get that much spam, I promise.

If you’re not sure how to turn it off, or even why you should, Style-Delights covered that subject on Sunday.

Now, because I’m impatient and mean I often just plain refuse to comment on blogs that have word verification in place.

But if you’re nicer than me and still comment on blogs that have word verification, why not pretend you’re saying a magic spell as you suffer through it like Mrs. Monologues does?

Stop Being Sorry.

I know in the past I’ve been guilty of this, but Katy Widrick brought it up again this week and I remembered how much it bothers me. If you haven’t blogged in a while – don’t say you’re sorry for not blogging. Stuff happens, we get it. And as much as you may think you “owe” us posts/explanations/apologies – you don’t. You really don’t owe us anything.

But DO Remember Your Followers are Real People.

Don’t invite people to make an emotional investment into your life and then just drop them.  Do not forget that your readers are still living, breathing, caring people who have a genuine interest in your well being. You are not required to keep blogging for the rest of your life, or blog through a tough time – or even a really happy time. Just give us a heads up that you’re taking some time off so we don’t think you were abducted. We’ll be sad and miss you, but we’ll get over it.

So don’t jerk us around either.

If you say you’re leaving your blog, leave it. Don’t come back two days/weeks/months later and say “JK, y’all!”

Just be yourself.

It’s not like it’s hard. I know it’s tempting to emulate successful bloggers because – after all – it works well for them! But your readers can see through your attempts to imitate someone else and we don’t like to read carbon copies of the same blog posts over and over again. Do your own thing, let your voice (and light) shine through, and just be you. That’s when you’ll really connect with your followers. Stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks and just be real. It takes way less energy than putting on character of who you think you need to be.

At the end of the day I absolutely 100% believe you should blog because you want to and blog because you love it. When it comes to the way you blog and what you say and how you say it – channel your inner honey badger. It’s your blog and you’ll do what you want. You really don’t owe anyone anything. But that also means you don’t get to complain about how other people interact or don’t interact with you. If you want to be part of a community or join a conversation you may have to compromise a little bit.

But not too much. Sometimes you have to break “the rules” to get what you want and get the job done.

But don’t just take my word for it.

Katie at Priceless Adventure posted her blogging pet peeves earlier this week – and I’m gonna venture to guess that every last one of you has your own list of blogger “deal breakers”. I’m all about sharing our thoughts and feelings constructively. No need to get vicious and call anyone out – but you do have to ask for what you want (I have another old post about that too – this one also has some interesting discussion on it!).

So what’s next? Brook has some twitter dos and don’ts for you.

Do you have any blog-related pet peeves? Do tell! 

P.S. I really will try to keep the puppy talk to a reasonable minimum. Cross my heart.

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Julie April 13, 2012 at 10:47 am

This is perfect! I hate it when I go to read a blog and people go on and on about how busy they are etc and don’t have time to post. We get it. We are all busy. Sometimes at the end of the day there is nothing to say!! Stop feeling so much pressure to put words to the screen. Just live your life, write about it if you want, and don’t if you want.
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Kate April 13, 2012 at 12:48 pm

Hear, hear. I’ve never been the kind of person who thinks you need to blog just to have something up there! And thanks for your blogland motivation – I definitely need and appreciate it!

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kell April 13, 2012 at 11:32 am

I’m standing up and applauding and cheering. YES!!!

And this is my blogging pet peeve: Wordless Wednesday. Freaking hate it. (http://nounduefussing.com/2012/04/11/a-blogging-psa/).

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Kate April 13, 2012 at 12:32 pm

Thanks, Kell! And oh my gosh, yes to your point about Wordless Wednesday meaning you don’t get to use words – I always have a laugh over the posts where they post “pictures” that have words in them, like motivational sayings or quotes. That’s still not wordless!

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Meg @ Moments Like This April 13, 2012 at 12:01 pm

I actually think its nice when a blogger says “sorry I’ve been gone because of xy and z” for the same reason why I’d want a friend to tell me about her long absence if we hadn’t hung out or spoke in a while…because it’s what friends do.

So many times bloggers talk about their readers as friends..Well, if your readers are your “friends” then do what a friend does and offer a little explanation about your lack of writing.

It would be like having a friend who texts you daily and then for two weeks you receive nothing and then get a text message. If that was me I would probably be like “So sorry I haven’t text you in a while, we went on vacation and it was awesome/the kids were sick and I couldn’t see the light of day/ I’m having a hard time right now.”
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Jessica April 13, 2012 at 4:05 pm

Having a baby really threw a kink in my blotting habits. Something had to give, and now when I do blot I feel so… out of place. Like… where do I start!?! But things will be slowing down in a few months. My biggest pet peeve is finding Blogs I enjoy reading… just for the author to goa and change how they write/post. I get that peoples lives change, but I would rather read one good post a week than 7 picture spam posts.
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Kate April 14, 2012 at 8:09 am

I know I have missed your blog, but I agree whole heartedly that I would rather have a few good posts a month than see endless pictures or semi-lame surveys and post after post of “here’s what I found on Pinterest but you already know cause you follow me there too…oh well” I definitely understand that feeling!

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Sable@SquatLikeALady April 13, 2012 at 4:07 pm

I am in total agreement with everything you wrote!!!

I just hate the bloggers who don’t really interact with their readers. I respond to every comment I get and I “know” who everyone is… It just bothers me when I take the time to write a long thoughtful comment and I get NO reply. At all. Ever. Especially from these ‘full-time bloggers’ who don’t have a job or anything else really going on EXCEPT for their blog. That’s a surefire way to get me to stop following – if I leave a heartfelt comment and the blogger doesn’t even care enough to take two seconds to respond, I’m done! =)

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Kate April 14, 2012 at 8:15 am

Oh, the non-interacters. I’m like you and don’t understand that mindset at all – I don’t always reply to every single comment but I do try to make people feel like I appreciated them taking the time to leave me a comment and that I “know” who my readers are. It took me a while to figure that out but I’m glad I did because I like this way of doing things much more. But I guess everyone has different priorities!

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Katie April 13, 2012 at 4:26 pm

Thanks for the shout out, Kate! I totally agree with the “stop saying sorry” bit. I would totally rather read 2 awesome, heartfelt posts a week than lame ones every day, especially if they are just apologies for not blogging. I have a feeling some people think you have to post every day to be a good blogger. That’s totally not true! You have to post worthwhile things to be a good blogger!
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Kate April 14, 2012 at 8:16 am

Agreed! Quality, not Quantity : )

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Sarah S. April 14, 2012 at 1:28 am

I love these! Also, don’t keep the puppy stuff to a minimum because I’m so excited to see cute puppy pictures when I’m up in the middle of the night.
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Kate April 14, 2012 at 8:20 am

I am SO HAPPY that your little girl is home where she belongs!! What a banner day! I also can’t wait until we can call you Dr. Sarah – holy excitement over there! And I will definitely share plenty of puppy pictures, just for your entertainment purposes : )

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Holly April 14, 2012 at 3:42 am

Oh man, how cute is your puppy!? I’m not a dog person, but that photo makes me want one anyway!

Oh man, word verification drives me nuts. I can never seem to type the codes in properly! :/
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Kate April 14, 2012 at 8:21 am

Holly, I completely agree. Trying to decipher those words makes my head spin! It’s worse if I’m at the office because sometimes the images won’t display and then I really don’t stand a chance!

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Colleen April 16, 2012 at 12:04 pm

Yes! I agree with pretty much everything you’ve said here. I always have friends who say “I love your blog! I thinking of starting my own blog, but I don’t know when I’ll have time.” I want to say to them: “Then don’t start a blog. Because if you go in with that thought, you will be one of the billion bloggers who update three times a year and then get disappointed because they have low numbers.”
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Jill Will Run April 20, 2012 at 10:38 am

Music that plays automatically makes me leave a site immediately, I won’t even look for the player to shut it off.

Word verifications are a given, CAPTCHA is annoying.

Too many pictures. Yes, pictures are nice, but when a blog shows 14 shots of basically the same thing (especially if it’s your breakfast) I usually stop reading. Pets and kids often get a pass on this rule, since I’m guilty of over-sharing pics of my pup! (usually just on Instagram/Twitter though)

And links that are too similar to the body text. (Yeah, slightly picking on your site… the links within the text of your post aren’t very obvious!) It’s not good usability, but this drives me nuts because I have to think about it for my job!
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Kate April 20, 2012 at 10:56 am

Thanks for letting me know! I didn’t realize because no one had ever mentioned it before and I am guilty of not really stepping back to look at my blog from a “user” perspective. I’m going to fix it right now.

And amen to the auto-playing music. No thanks!

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Gretchen @ Honey, I Shrunk the Gretchen! April 20, 2012 at 10:43 am

I heart this post so hard I want to take it out to dinner. And not just any dinner, at like a really expensive restaurant, with apps and ‘zerts and everything.

<3
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Kate April 20, 2012 at 11:00 am

Maybe I should add to my policies page that anyone taking my blog posts out to dinner has to take me along too. Apps and ‘zerts are serious business!

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Gretchen @ Honey, I Shrunk the Gretchen! April 20, 2012 at 11:02 am

Maybe we should get dinner sometime anyway… just sayin’…. :D
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Kate April 20, 2012 at 11:09 am

Haha, well, yes. That too!

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Jamie H April 20, 2012 at 2:39 pm

I am new to the blogging world – and totally addicted!

Deal breakers for me are:

Posts with all pictures and no words – just tell me what the pictures are if you have nothing else to say! I love to look at your photos, but I don’t always understand what they mean to you.

Spelling errors – drives me absolutely nuts!

Word verification – I will still comment, but will be totally annoyed that I have to redo the word verification several times because I *always* get it wrong! I better get to my blog and remove the word verification – though I have no followers yet, I don’t want to turn away any potential followers with this annoyance!
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Kate April 20, 2012 at 2:44 pm

It’s easy to get addicted, isn’t it? And I agree – give us a little context for the photos before you dump a pile of them in our lap!

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